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Showing posts with label Violence and Abuse. Show all posts
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Thursday, 14 February 2013

#One Billion Rising

English: A campaign against female genital mut...
English: A campaign against female genital mutilation – a road sign near , Uganda. עברית: .מאבק נגד מילת נשים - שלט הסברה בצד הכביש, ליד קפצ'ורווה, אוגנדה (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I usually post about writing on Thursdays but today’s a day of action on a topic close to my heart, so please forgive my passion ruling my sense of duty on this occasion. I suspect many of you won’t have heard about a growing movement that aims to act in defence of women subject to violence. It takes many forms: the fight against it, that is. There are many, many places on the web where you can participate without a huge amount of effort.

I’ve never been a campaigner in physical protest, getting out on the street, partaking in revolution or rebellion in a physical way: such protest is too easily high-jacked by those with vested interests in promoting their own violent and often extreme political views. Such protest can frequently do more harm than good. I’m a writer. My skills lie in my ability to communicate through the written word: it’s therefore more appropriate for me to work as a spreader of the word, a reporter on the topic, an informer to the unaware.

So, this piece and my other internet activities constitute my activity, my contribution to the debate. I hope to raise awareness of the issue and perhaps persuade more people, especially men, to become engaged in the cause against violence to women. At the end of this short piece I’ll provide links to sites of interest where you can learn more, participate, and spread the word, as you see fit.

Violence against women, against the female of our species of all ages, is widespread, destructive, unjust and sometimes simply casual. There are societies, political movements, religions, and criminal groups that treat women as commodities; goods and chattels to be used, abused, traded and disposed of without any regard to their humanity.

In certain parts of the world, girl babies are routinely killed because the male line is the one that inherits, and dowries are required to be paid on the marriage of a daughter. There are groups where the insanely cruel practice of female genital mutilation, euphemistically labelled ‘female circumcision’, is routinely carried out on young women approaching puberty. The rationale for this horrific abuse, often controlled by the mothers of the victims, is that a woman incapable of experiencing the real pleasures of sex is unlikely to stray from the marital bed.

Within the more extreme versions of Islam, there are groups that continue to stone to death a raped woman, accusing her of infidelity.

The Catholic church routinely turns a blind eye to the rape and assault of both male and female children at the hands of its priests, whilst condemning any girl subsequently found to be pregnant to suffer the torture of giving birth the bastard so conceived.

Women are beaten daily by tribal husbands in Africa, Asia and the Middle East simply because they fail to satisfy every demand of these men.

In the USA, a land that prides itself on freedom and modernity, the right wing element of the Christian church is more concerned about the rights of an unformed foetus than about those of its raped mother. I could go on, but the list is disappointingly long.

The vast majority of violence against women is perpetrated by men; though some is committed by other women, especially mothers. The greatest single cause of this violence stems from ignorance. Education, of both men and women, is a key route to the solution of the problem. As a consequence of ignorance, fear plays a huge role also: we all know that bullies are, almost without exception, cowards. A man who fears ridicule because a woman rejects him, who fears his sexual prowess will be called into doubt if ‘his’ woman appears to be enamoured of another man, who fears that a woman is actually more intelligent, rational or simply ‘right’, will lash out if he has no social example to show him that this is not acceptable or correct. And it is education that will most surely deal with such ignorance.

Many will complain that changes in custom and tradition are needed to end some of these practices. The argument that cultural difference is an insurmountable difficulty will hold sway with many others. But these attitudes hide a reluctance to face the realities. At base, we’re all aware that the ‘golden rule’ is the only real arbiter of true justice in this world and that all deviations are the result of domination by one group of bullies over another. But we have moved on from the days when might was right. That the world is not uniformly developing a rational and reasonable consciousness does not excuse the toleration of practices that are, by any logical measure, brutal and unjust. The fact that an action stems from custom or tradition does not automatically confer legitimacy upon it. I challenge those who defend brutality on the grounds of culture to apply the golden rule to these actions and examine them in that light. The advantage of using this as a yardstick is that it (Do unto others as you would have them do to you) lies outside the rules, laws and traditions of any religion. The simple idea expressed by this rule is based on mutual respect and informed self-interest. We would do well to make it a universal law in all our dealings with each other and to outlaw all instances of ‘law’ that fail to conform with it.

Finally, much violence against women is allowed simply because various cultures, religious sects and traditions have debased women. This is almost always the result of ignorance of the biological facts. Consider the old habit of rulers disposing of wives who failed to give them a male heir: we now know that the sex of a child is dependent on the input from the male. Blaming a woman is ignorant and stupid.

The idea of male supremacy stems largely from the brute force that most men are able to apply against women. The simple biological differences between the genders makes men, in general terms, stronger than women. Of course there are exceptions, but the general rule applies and is responsible for the irrational attitude to supremacy that continues in many cultures. We no longer live in a world where brute force is the prime factor in a group’s survival. Other factors, many of them the domain of the female of the species, now apply to the continued health of any society. Education will make this clear. Education will restore the proper respect and sense of worth for women. But, and I understand there’ll be much resistance to this idea, education must be free from the interference of any religion for it to have the necessary effect. It’s clear that much of the religious world was born out of traditional ignorance and to allow it to have undue bearing on the education of our children is to perpetuate the problems we need to solve. If parents want their children to be raised in any given faith, let them do it outside of general institutions of education.

So, to how you can work for the good of women in the world in general. The following links lead to areas you can further develop. Thank you for reading this lengthy piece. I welcome comment, as usual, of course. And if any readers have additional sources of information, please add these to your comments.


I could go on, but I don’t want to overload you. I’d rather you got involved. Thank you for your patience.

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Thursday, 22 September 2011

Author Interview with Sandra McLeod Humphrey


Sandra McLeod Humphrey is a retired clinical psychologist, a character education consultant, and an award-winning author of seven middle-grade and young adult books. She’s also the recipient of the National Character Education Center’s Award for Exemplary Leadership in Ethics Education (2000) and the 2005 Helen Keating Ott Award for Outstanding Contribution to Children's Literature. In her words: “After working as a clinical psychologist for more than 31 years, I consider my new writing career as the ‘desssert’ of my life!”

Your latest book is Hot Issues, Cool Choices: Facing Bullies, Peer Pressure, Popularity, and Put-Downs; perhaps you’d you give us some insight into it in a few sentences and let us know how you came to write it?

Hot Issues, Cool Choices: Facing Bullies, Peer Pressure, Popularity, and Put-Downs was a book I had to write. After doing school visits for two years and hearing the personal stories the students told me about their bullying experiences, I knew I had to share those stories with my readers. The stories are fictionalized to some extent, but they are all based on true bullying experiences, and the book is dedicated to a 12-year-old boy who took his own life as a result of being bullied.

Do you have a favourite character from the book? If so, who and why this particular one?

One of my favorite stories from the book is the one written by a bully himself who is totally clueless as to how others perceive him. He does not see himself as a bully and uses all kinds of rationalizations to excuse his bullying behavior.

Where can people buy your books?

My books are available at all major bookstores, both offline and online, and if people would like an autographed copy of one of my books, they can order one from my website http://www.kidscandoit.com.

What qualities does a writer need to be successful?

For a writer to be successful, one most definitely needs perseverance and a passion to write. It has been said that a writer can not “not write” and I totally agree. Everywhere I go and with everything I see, I think in terms of “story.” What kind of story is told here and by whom? Even when I’m sitting in the waiting room at a doctor’s office, I sometimes entertain myself by making up a story about each of the other people in the waiting room.

What’s your working method?

My working method is actually pretty simple. I’m a morning person, so I write in the mornings and do my busywork in the afternoons or evenings when I’m pretty much “brain-dead.” I usually set a potentially attainable goal each day (on paper), so that at the end of the day, I can cross it off. I’m a “list person” and I love to make lists, just so I can cross everything off at the end of the day!

What’s the single biggest mistake made by beginner writers?

I think one of the mistakes beginning writers may make is to not read enough. To be a writer, one must READ, READ, READ, particularly in their genre. Another common mistake is insufficient market research before they send their manuscripts off to the publishers. There are some great marketing resources available, and the editors will know if you’ve done your homework.

To what extent are grammar and spelling important in writing?

I may be in the minority, but personally, I think grammar and spelling are extremely important. They show that “you care enough to send the very best!”

How much do you revise your MS before sending it off?

I revise and revise and then I revise some more. I also give my manuscripts a “cooling off” period of a few days (or weeks), so that I can look at them with fresh eyes the way a potential reader would be looking at them.

As a writer, to what extent do you think genre is useful in the publishing world?

Actually, I think genre is quite important—particularly when it comes to differentiating M-G novels from YA novels and from differentiating the various types of fantasy and sci-fi novels.

Many authors see marketing as a bind. What's your opinion on this, and how do you deal with it?

I’m not sure what you mean by “bind,” but I see marketing simply as one of those things I have to do as a writer. This means checking out potential prepublication endorsers, potential reviewers, appropriate book awards, etc. There are always marketing “surprises” one never anticipates such as the Boston middle school which ordered 900 copies of one of my books to use in their pen pal program with their community leaders. Who could ever have predicted that one?

What sort of displacement activities keep you from writing?

I actually do a lot of work with our youth as a Sunday school teacher, Vacation Bible School teacher, confirmation mentor, school visits, young writers’ workshops, etc., but there’s most definitely an upside to all my youth activities because the time I spend with our youth gives me great material for my books.

What support, if any, do you receive from family and friends, writing group, or dedicated professionals?

Everywhere I go, I get support! My social networking friends on the internet, my friends in the real world, and especially my husband (who never complains about the endless hours I spend on the computer) all give me very much appreciated support!

Is presentation of the MS as important as agents and publishers suggest?

I think presentation is extremely important! That first line, that first paragraph, that first page all make an impression! Your format, your grammar, your spelling, your typos, your “voice,” your writing style, your storyline, your characterization etc. will all be revealed by the end of the first chapter.

How long does it take you to write a book?

I’m usually working on two books simultaneously, and it generally takes me about two years to complete both books.

Who or what inspires your writing?

People and social issues inspire my writing. The problem of school bullying inspired my bullying book, the questions my confirmation students asked inspired my Keepin’ It Real: A Young Teen Talks with God, my Sunday school classes inspired my Me, Myself, and I: Youth Meditations for Grades Five through Eight, my thirty-one years as a clinical psychologist inspired my What Would You Do? series and my new book The No-Name Club’s Not-So-Official Guide to Solving Your Problems (Royal Fireworks 11/11), and my ongoing passion to encourage our youth to believe in themselves inspired my Dare to Dream!: 25 Extraordinary Lives and my new book They Stood Alone!: 25 Men and Women Who Made a Difference (Prometheus Books 11/11).

If there’s a single aspect of writing you find frustrating, what is it?

The only area of writing I find frustrating is that I have so many ideas for so many books I want to write, and I know that I won’t be around long enough to write them all!

Is there a particular feature of writing that you really enjoy?

My passion is to inspire our youth to develop strong character, to believe in themselves, and to dream dreams (their own dreams), and every time I receive letters or e-mails from my readers who tell me how much one of my books has helped them, that is most definitely a “peak experience” for me.

Do you believe creative writing is a natural gift or an acquired skill?

I think creative writing is a combination of both native ability and acquired skill. To be a successful writer, I think you need both.

What are you writing now?

I’m currently working on Failure Isn’t Final!: 25 Men and Women Who Never Gave Up, and as with all my other books, I’m writing it to inspire our youth to persevere, to believe in themselves and their dreams, and to never give up!

Do you have a website or blog where readers can visit?

You can learn more about my books by visiting my Web site at www.kidscandoit.com. and my blog at http://www.kidscandoit.com/blog/

Given unlimited resources, where would you do your writing?

If I had unlimited resources, I think I’d have a beach hideaway on some Hawaiian island with my four dogs (350 pounds of “dog”) and enough electricity for my computer and my printer. (My husband can come, too).

Where do you actually write?

I write at my computer in my study. Actually, it’s my husband’s study because his study has better light than mine, and every time he comes in or goes out, I have to stop typing and move my chair because my chair blocks the doorway. I’m thinking that Hawaiian island is looking better all the time!

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